Dating from Self Love and Pleasure

I did this livestream around dating from a certain state…

For the product I’m referring to you can go here…

Radiant Abundant Empress 4 Day event

It was a 4 day challenge I did last year, but there are lovely tools You can utilize for self love. Because it is all about self love and pleasure.

Basic Transcription of the Video :

Dating FROM self love and Pleasure…

This curious mind wants to know…

When You’re dating – from what state of mind do You come from?

Do You come from a state of “Ahhh FFS! I’ve got to date, so not into this.”

Or “OMG OMG OMG I HOPE, they are THE ONE”

“I’m a sexy, sensual amazing being with so much to offer. I just know that tonight’s date will be great fun. Even if we nothing came from it, I know I will have had fun because I’m relaxed and I know my value.”

Or “AHHHHHH I’m TERRIFIED. What if this person thinks I’m too fat/ugly/has too many freckles/my hairs not perfect/my teeth are crooked?!” (ends up on a puddle on the floor bawling)

The state of mind You cultivate while You’re dating is incredibly important! As well as the unconscious process you enter into dating with as well.

Your attachment style is important as well – I mean many factors are!

Dating can either be a train smash or it can be a great and fun experience for You. But that largely determines whether You’ve gotten a grip about a few things in your life.

How can You enter into a state where You are coming from more empowerment during dating?

Well – Dating from Pleasure and from a state of self love of course.

How do You do that? Well You can learn how to use your sexual energy in a healthy way to help You feel sexy and empowered.

You can do some positive psychology methods and mindfulness practices like the mirror practice I LOVE to give to folks. In fact in my blog You’ll find it.

Doing sensual breathwork practices, yoni egg practices, testicle massage and tapping into your primal states of the Huntress and the Hunter are ways. This is done through breathwork and special meditation methods.

Here’s the thing You want to create a state that is from power and empowerment. Not a fake one.

Fake confidence people can see a mile away. It’s like faux leather. You can spot it. For sure. You can smell it’s not the original. And because we’re still animals on foundational level, we can smell all kinds of emotions on each other on an unconscious level.

Cool right?

So how do we cultivate the authentic Self Love and Pleasure?

There are various ways to do so. I’ve mentioned a few. But this is about the way You see and experience Yourself as a person.

Do You know the value You offer and bring to the table?

Are you actually open to finding your soulmate or are you still on some level terrified of love because of unresolved baggage from previous relationships?

Now don’t get me wrong – we will always have something to heal. But you have to clear the blockages and the fears as much as you can so that You can be open in a wonderful magical way to receive and be blessed with beautiful love and partnership.

You have to look at the patterns You are displaying during relationships and during dating. What is going on there?

What is your dating and relationship narrative?

Right now in this moment, is it serving You?

The fact is, you might not want to admit to it, but it does. Your patterns are serving You. Even if they are uncomfortable. Because every pattern we have is there to serve and help us on some level.

I worked with a gentleman a few weeks ago around his relationship and dating patterns. He had a pattern of “it’s a done deal” if I date this girl, we’re moving in together and we’re going to settle down. And he would choose narcissists that were doing really well financially and that are jet setters. The reason he was doing this? He was looking for love. In his mind due to his childhood experiences, he ended up misconstruing what love really looked like and love to him looked like a high performer. Like someone that was doing something big with their lives.

But he would end up in unhealthy relationships with women that broke him down.

The main driving program that this man had, was “I just want to be accepted”. And this was actually what he wanted from his parents. But it evolved into looking for acceptance with the wrong people. So this beautifully demonstrates how this man was trying to heal his relationship with his parent – but he couldn’t. Until he understood the driver and until we dismantled the programming for him.

He now has a healthier attitude about dating.

He told me that he looks forward to dating for the sake of getting to know the person and to make sure that the relationship would be one of beauty and mutual respect and love. And he’s cultivating his own tremendous amounts of love, so that he doesn’t feel the need to find it externally. But that when he enters that relationship eventually it will be one that is balanced.

Beautiful right?

So When it comes to dating, there are so many drivers that you need to consider if you’re carrying an unhealthy dating pattern.

I hope you enjoyed this

I look forward to seeing you again on the next time.

Love

Maryke